Being Kind to Yourself

 During the grief process, we need to be kind to ourselves, It is such a difficult time and there are many hurdles to jump. Berating ourselves for not achieving it all is counter-productive. 

This is one of the most terrible times of our lives and we do what we can. Sometimes, even getting a meal on the table is too hard or leaving the house. But remember that we are in the grieving place are not alright. 

I felt like a shell of myself unable to do the most simple things. I was in a fog of grief only going through the motions. Be gentle with yourself, kind and loving. 

In time, we become better and able to return to our lives on some level, but be aware of your situation. Say No when you can't do it, No when you need time alone, and No to anything that adds more stress. In a way, be a little selfish because no-one feels like you do. 

Part of our recovery is taking care of ourselves and knowing what we can and cannot do. 

Love, Wendy x

Grieving in the cave

Anxiety and Fear from Grief

Underground Pain

 After loss, the pain is unbearable. It sits inside of us with nowhere to go. You are not over-reacting, it is normal how bad you feel. 

Mostly, we try to keep it hidden, but every minute it is with us. 

I never believed that pain could be so strong and relentless. But remember, in time, it lessens and we kinda find a way to carry it around with us. 

Allow yourself to cry, wail, sob and be a disgusting mess when you need to let it out. I would cry till my eyes burned and I felt completely worn-out. The more you let it out, the better for your healing. Held in the pain will express itself anyway by making you sick or go into shutdown.

Express the pain and as your cry those hot tears know it is releasing, which is healthy and a positive outcome. 

Love, 

Wendy x 

Up and Down of Grief