Disappointment, Sorrow and Heartache

Disappointment is an unfilled want or need. It’s disappointing to be the one left behind. There is massive heartache and disappointment because your hopes and dreams for the future are irrevocably gone.

I would watch couples my age and older walking together and know that I would never have that experience again with my husband. We did not have twenty more years together. I was disappointed that I lost him so early. Our plans could not be fulfilled and future grandchildren would not know him. There was a loss of family. The dynamics of the family alter dramatically after a death. My children were disappointed for me and themselves. They were also disappointed for their children.

It is disappointing looking ahead and seeing nothing together. The memories are all you have now. Maybe you wish you had travelled more and shared more activities. IN addition, you are disappointed that you are single.

Gradually, you accept your life and become more grateful. You focus on the gifts that precious relationship gave you and the wealth of love you shared.

Disappointment lasts as long as we look back and see what we lost, not what we gained.

Loss creates sorrow and enormous heartache. It is a heartache you are unprepared for and one which lasts for ages. There can be an actual ache and burning sensation around the heart. You feel as if your heart is breaking. The feeling of having a heart attack happens to some and panic attacks occur.

It is not uncommon to exhibit heart problems during or after grief situations. The heart is particularly vulnerable to emotional stress This is the time to take good care of yourself on all levels. Rest and avoiding extra stress on the heart is beneficial. Taking herbal aids and heart minerals like magnesium and coenzyme 10 assist with the physical aspects. Vitamins strengthen you as well.

Energetically, you can place your hands on your heart area and wear rose quartz and tourmaline. Both these crystals protect the heart from more damage. Reiki and massage relax the body which in turn relaxes the heart. Acupuncture is a valuable tool. There are specific acupuncture pressure points which feed into the meridian grid. Check them out on the net. Heart 7 and pericardium 6 are two to begin with. Rescue remedy and homeopathic medicine are excellent. Bach remedies work on the finer vibrational areas of your aura.

Physically, you need to exercise but in a gentle manner. While you are grieving the heart is under attack and too much vigorous exercise places strain on it. Yoga, walking, light jogging, and Qigong are better choices. Try not to exhaust the body with too much cleaning and lifting. Everything in moderation.

Keeping away from draining individuals keeps us in a healthier space. Drainers come in many guises. Check how you feel after time together. When you come away exhausted, you have been drained. After loss, your energy is already depleted and extra depletion brings it down even more. Crowds have the same effect.

Try not to become too tired. Stay later in bed or take an afternoon nap. The body heals when you rest because the energy for moving around is sent to other parts of the body. When you sleep your body repairs itself.

Grief takes its toll and the heart is the hardest hit.